For the last three years, including last weekend, August 3-5, I’ve had the privilege of helping lead a young adult Charis retreat weekend called “What’s Next?: Finding Answers With Faith” at the Jesuits’ Ignatius House Retreat Center in Atlanta, GA. This year, I put my admittedly amateur video skills to work in order to make a “highlight reel” of the weekend. If you want to get a sense of what some young adults are looking for, and what our retreat was like, have a look at our video!:
After a pretty busy February spent giving talks and retreats in various places, I’ve finally reached my Spring Break vacation, of sorts. I’m about halfway through my week in L.A. which has been a great time to reconnect with family and friends and prepare myself for what promises to be the somewhat overwhelming experience of my first Los Angeles Religious Education Congress, which some refer to as “Catholic Disneyland.”
My brother lives and works here as the Art Director for the show Parks & Recreation (my mother was somewhat taken aback a couple of years ago when he said his new job was with Parks & Recreation! She hadn’t heard of the show.) I spent the first part of my trip with he, his wife, and their three children. They have twins–a boy and a girl–who are, as my nephew repeated more than once, “6 and three quarters” years old, and another four year old daughter. The weekend was a reminder of the pros and cons of family life, as we moved from one sporting event to another. There was T-ball with my nephew, where I was drafted as a third base coach, and practice for the two girls’ soccer teams that my brother coaches. One of the Moms asked me, “Has he always been so wonderful with kids.” And while this was the first time I’d seen him coach, I had to admit that he’s pretty darn good! I’m also proud to see what a great father my little brother has turned out to be! Saturday was soccer practice, and Sunday was the soccer games, and I had the joy of seeing my youngest niece score a goal!
It was a bit of a surprise, because just minutes before she didn’t seem so into the game! This was true of most of the girls on the team, whose interest seemed to wax and wane throughout the game. Sustained competitive intensity is probably not so a common a trait for most four year old girls.
While all this was going on, I also provided entertainment–some voluntary, some not–for the niece and nephew who was not playing at the time, at one point simultaneously pitching balls to my nephew and kicking the soccer ball with my niece. It was wonderful to spend time with them, as I don’t see them as often as I’d like, but also exhausting! A reminder that I really need to get into shape!
I also had a wonderful dinner last night with my friend TerriAnn, who asked if she could bring her boyfriend, Ronnie Kovic, along. I wrote back to her that I would be delighted if he could come and, isn’t his name the same as the guy from Born on the Fourth of July? Not only was it the same name, but also the same guy! It was wonderful to see TerriAnn, who I always visit when I’m in L.A., and to meet Ron, who is a lovely man, and who doesn’t look anything like Tom Cruise! 🙂 It was a privilege to meet a man who has really struggled with great hardship in his life, but has now achieved such great peace. And he an TerriAnn are such a lovely match.
We talked for hours, about all sorts of things. Ron quizzed me on what I’ve been doing, I of course asked him about his experiences (and since I’m a movie nut, it was also exciting to be sitting with a Golden Globe winner!), and I got caught up with TerriAnn, who I hadn’t seen since my last visit to L.A. How wonderful it was to see my friend, who lost her husband some years ago, to be so happy with someone new! What a blessing.
All this is a prelude to the L.A. Congress which I hope will be an enriching experience, and also an opportunity to spread the news about my book, and to see a lot of friends and colleagues from around the country who I don’t get to see as often as I’d like! I’ve also volunteered to be available for Confessions, which is always such a great privilege.
If you’re coming to the L.A. Congress, look for me at the booths of the Jesuits, Charis ministries or Saint Anthony Messenger Press (where you can also buy my book!). I’ll report more on the Catholic Disneyland experience in a future post!
Confession is a way to start over. This might mean confessing your sins to God in the Sacrament of Reconciliation, or confessing to another person some way that you have wronged them. You might not expect a song of penitence and remorse from a band like Linkin Park, but this is exactly what we have in “What I’ve Done.” It’s a song about washing oneself clean and starting over. It’s a song about coming face to face with our own sin, and having to find a way to start again. Though there’s some uncertainty about the possibility of forgiveness here, the refrain asserts the singer’s need to find it: “So let mercy come, and wash away what I’ve done. I’ll face myself. To cross out what I’ve become. Erase myself, and let go of what I’ve done.”
This is not about self-annihilation, but about the freedom that comes when we accept mercy, and know ourselves to be forgiven. The song also suggests what is often the case; that, frequently, the hardest person to forgive is myself: “Today this ends. I’m forgiving what I’ve done.”
It’s a brief song, that’s also short on lyrics, but still it manages to say a lot.The video also reminds us that this is not just an individual thing. We have to face the consequences of what we do as a community, and seek mercy for that too. Not so that we can forget about it, but so that we can start again trying to make it right. See the video here.